Mutual regulation comes before self-regulation and sometimes it can feel like it will take forever

For all those parents who have children and young people who still need you to sit with them when they go to sleep, still need you to go upstairs with them because sometimes they are scared, still need you to do 100 invisible adjustments so they can get out the door in a reasonable emotional state… its hard, frustrating and maddening at times… but also ITS OKAY!

There is nothing wrong with your child, some kids just need us to support them for longer - what we call mutual regulation - because they feel things more strongly and more often. They will get there in their own time. Stay strong!